I’m going to have to apologise for exclaiming how quickly time is passing at the start of each monthly update. I only say it because I genuinely can’t believe how quickly everything is happening this time round.
We’ve been doing lots of the usual stuff this month which DD is beginning to get some benefit from, in particular Beat Bus where she’s now properly interacting with the rest of the group. We started attending a new parent/toddler group last week which we’re going to go to every week, it’s one of the few things I can do just with her whilst DS is at Pre-School and it’s a lovely group where she can get to know babies of her own age.
We’ve started making sure she gets in the swimming pool for a few minutes each week when we take DS on a Sunday and she loves it. She’s so relaxed in water, it’s lovely to see. I’m still searching for a baby swim session that I can do whilst DS is at school but it’s eluding me at the moment due to people not getting back to me.
So what has her sixth month in our world brought?
All ok barring another cold whose initial effects were short lived though she still has a runny nose.
This is turning into a sore subject and have now decided the baby who slept through is no longer living with us anymore. The last few nights have been horrific with wake ups every hour from 10pm and sometimes every half. To say I’m exhausted is an understatement and this has not been helped by coughs and colds from both children.
Napping is equally as hit or miss and the best place she sleeps is in her carrier, unfortunately for my back.
However, if it wasn’t for this poor sleep I wouldn’t be getting this post out on time this month… every cloud and all.
Suddenly this month has seen DD make remarkable leaps in development, both physically and emotionally.
From doing no sitting at all she has gone to long periods of sitting unaided, though surrounded by cushions because when she does go, she goes!
Right at the beginning of this last month she started passing objects from hand to hand and removing and inserting objects into, and out of, a box.
Since all this has been going on she seems to have ditched rolling and hasn’t even attempted this for several weeks now. Having said that this doesn’t mean she’s still. She has developed a kind of squirm that’ll get her to the object I’ve placed to encourage her to roll over and when she’s sitting she’ll do a wriggle dance that’ll bump her forward a centimetre or so. I’m fully expecting her to be a bottom shuffler.
Emotionally, the last week or so has seen her start showing signs of separation anxiety which means I can’t walk away from her anymore, welcome limpet stage!
She is also showing her level of frustration if she can’t have what she wants, I think we’ve got a feisty one here. Be it food or a toy, if she doesn’t get it straight away we know about it.
She can spend ages staring at a zip, or my necklace or a tab on something and toys with it with her fingers and studies it closely..
She’s also started throwing things which DS is finding a little frustrating.
A few days ago, on the 2nd November, I noticed she was displaying a perfect pincer grip as she picked up a small piece of fish of the table.
DD is making lots more sounds now and is incredibly vocal. She chats away to herself and shouts at us on a regular basis and has perfected her tired ‘song’.
Sounds she makes include:
Gah, Wahwah, Baabaa no sign of Mama, despite endless coaching 😆
Sitting… no longer is she content lying on her blanket, she verbalises exactly how discontent she is with that until I sit her up in front of a myriad of toys and objects.
Box of objects.
Sensory Objects. At the moment she loves anything sensory. Anything crunchy or crinkly gets her attention immediately and for this the space blanket is a firm favourite.
Sensory Books. The ‘That’s Not My…’ books and a peek-a-boo book called ‘Where’s Mrs Hen?’ get lots of use and totally engage her. They are a great way of getting DS involved too as he can ‘read’ them to her and show her what to do.
Activity songs such as Kangaroo Likes To Hop.
Raspberries on her tummy and nuzzling her neck always result in giggles, as does silly dancing and funny faces.
She loves having a dance and, like her brother, loves music and making her own with some musical instruments we have (xylophone, tambourine, shaky eggs, maracas)
Passing objects from one hand to another.
This has been going exceptionally well. Right from the first try she took some onboard, so different to her brother who didn’t actually swallow anything until he was 10 Months Old.
I’ve been doing baby led weaning properly this time round and have been a lot more relaxed about it. Though I still watch like a Gael and the first time with bread had me panic a little as it clagged up at the back of her throat, needless to say she didn’t have bread again and I’ve stuck to toast.
She mainly has batons of food that she can feed herself but anything more sloppy I tend to load a spoon for her and pass her the spoon so she can feed herself.
First tastes (in order):
Carrot, Avocado, bread and Marmite, Porridge, Weetabix, Sweet Potato, Butternut Squash, Banana, Croissant, Parsnip, Broccoli, Strawberries, Blueberry Pancakes, Sweetcorn Fritters, Quorn Sausage, Boiled Egg, Cheese Straws, Pizza, Omelette, Fish, Cucumber, Kiwi, Tomato, Pea Fritters.
All of this resulted in her first solid poo on the 7th. Unfortunately she’s struggling a bit and has been very grumpy with this, I’m presuming until she gets used to pushing something solid out.
There are no visible signs that anymore are coming through at the moment.
I got her weighed this month she measured in at:
15Ib 12oz (7.140kg) and a length of 65cm.
She’s still following the 25th centile for weight and the 9th for length (she’s obviously got her mother’s genes there)
I’ve been struggling a bit this last month with one thing or another. I’m so tired due to children being ill and feeling quite isolated and alone.
OH had a week off and DS went through a stage where he had been quite horrible to me and I can’t help but think it’s my fault because I’m not spending the time with him that I could before DD was born. He’s said the most hurtful things to me and is almost ganging up on me with OH and I’m finding it really difficult to deal with. We have always been so close and I hate the fact that he doesn’t ‘like’ me at the moment. OH says it’s a phase just because he’s been home more but I can’t help worrying that our relationship has been damaged. Of course the fact that OH refuses to discipline (leaving me to be the ‘bad cop’ all the time) and spoils him with treats (which irritates me because if I do that I get told off because we’re skint) doesn’t help. Thankfully this blip stopped the moment OH went back to work so I need to reaffirm to OH that he must stand up to him if he speaks to me like that… not that he will, secretly I think he likes the fact that DS ‘prefers’ him to me for a change but still he can’t get away with being rude and I won’t stand for it.
All of this coupled with the devastating news that my dear friend, G has just lost her baby at 29 Weeks Pregnant has left me an emotional wreck and feeling that there’s nothing I can do to help her.
I’m feeling like an utter failure as a mother, a person and a friend right now
Weight: 9st 5Ib… 2Ibs to go until I’m back in my target range and so bloody close to target but I seem to have lost my mojo this last couple of weeks and after a maintain last week I came out guns blazing and seem to have lost it again, I can’t seem to stop sabotaging myself.